— OUR BLOG —

The problem with online dating

People who shop for people online are in a specific mental state. And it’s not a good one.

An increasing number of people are using online dating sites to meet potential partners. Now, people who date online are not shallower or vainer than those who don’t. They broadly represent all types of people from all walks of life. It’s just that they’re in a specific mental state: They’re shopping for human beings, commodifying people.

They have access to very little information that can help them judge if they will fall in love with this person - they pay ridiculous amounts of attention to things like looks, which have little bearing on whether a relationship will work. …

When online daters actually meet, an entirely different mind-set has to kick in. If they’re going to be open to a real relationship, they have to stop asking where this person rates in comparison to others.

Read the full story here


Back to blog

“Grace and I are now engaged! Thank you so much for finding her for me. It’s like we were made for each other and I wonder what on Earth I did without her for all of those years! It was a worry because, as you know, I did not want to be in the public eye. I know society has moved on a lot but as a teacher I really couldn’t stand it if any of the kids I teach found an online profile for me. Your personal introductions were absolutely perfect – discrete and carefully handled. Thanks again – your invite is in the post!”

Darragh, 32