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5 Myths About Relationship Happiness

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A relationship is a complicated thing, and so the secret to finding a happy relationship is often shrouded in misinformation.


The truth is that a happy relationship requires hard-work and commitment. Yet, many people don’t want to hear this and as a result many myths about happy relationships still exist. Be sure to look out for these tall tales about love.

1) Love means never having to say you’re sorry

This advice originated from a novel by Erich Segal. However, it turns out that love actually means saying sorry quite a bit. According to Aaron Lazare, apologies “require great strength” but they also need to be done properly. The “botched” apology can be a very dangerous thing.

2) Opposites attract

There is no guarantee that two people who are utterly different will fall in love. It should not come as a surprise, but sometimes when somebody is a professional wrestler who likes sky-diving, and their partner is a daisy-chain maker who likes origami, then that is not guaranteed to work.

3) Similarities attract

By extension, there is no guarantee that two people who both love extreme ironing are destined to be together. American TV psychologist Dr. Phil says, “if you and your partner are forcing yourselves to engage in common activities but the results are stress, tension and conflict, don't do it!

 


4) Perfect couples don’t argue

If you are human, then chances are that you have had an argument or two in your life. If you find someone and fall in love, then this fact about you will not change. In fact,research shows that arguing can be good for a relationship. Couples argue because they are addressing issues with each other; this is the same reason anybody argues.

5) Romance, above all else, is the most important thing

Romance is good, great even, but it is not the whole relationship. A holiday to Italy complete with walks on the beach and a few bottles of prosecco may be a great weekend, but it is not the bedrock of true love. Relationships are built on trust and an investment in a future together; romance is the furniture and decoration of this well-built home.


So what does work? Being committed to each other and trying very hard at it is a good start. However, there are no quick fixes to finding love. The truth is that every relationship needs to be treated individually.

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